My Hubby's Ego is Killing Me!

I do not mean to wash my dirty linen in public, but I just can't stomach it anymore and need an outlet to vent my displeasure!

According to Wikipedia, the definition of "holiday" is "A specific trip or journey for the purposes of recreation / tourism." Now, my own interpretation of it is "Pure torture with a possibility of breaking my back."

To digress, it has been a long long time since Hubby and I squabbled. In fact I don't remember any major brawling sessions ever since we tied the knot.

Holidays are joyous occasions, and I have always been eagerly planning for the itinerary and looking forward to the day of departure. However, I am so not interested to leave for San Francisco now. Hubby and I had been squabbling on and off for the past 3 long weeks whenever the topic of our SFO trip surfaces.

Tell me, who would love to go on a holiday when she and her hubby needs to lug 2 luggages, a backpack (that's a 48 litre size which is wider and longer than my body!) and a 14KG HUGE BOX?! The worst part is to lug it up the MTR (public train) from the SFO airport to some place, then down the MTR to hitch a bus, up and down the SECOND public transport and WALK some distance to the hotel. Play this scenario twice cos we need to get from the hotel to the airport, then fly back to SIN 3 days later. Tell me, who in the right mind will want to torture herself like that during a holiday? I wanted to take the taxi, but becos it costs USD$120, Hubby does not allow. I said we claim J, he also does not want. "I'll pay for the f**king taxi fare then!" He just insisted that he wants me to lug the god-damn heavy luggages up and down the vehicles while he lug the box. If I break my bones, I am so going to kill him.

I just do not understand why must he go through all these hassle, pain and quarreling sessions all just because of a friend. Of cos i do not blame the friend for asking us bring back the huge 14kg box. It is because Hubby forgotten that we're stopping over at SFO for a holiday before we head back to SIN. Thus he promised his friend, J, that we will lug this heavy and huge box that contains a twin baby pram, from STL to SIN. When the box arrived at our doorstep, did it dawn on him that we're going for a holiday enroute SIN, so he shouldn't have agreed to lug it back in the first place.

I first suggested asking J if we can ship the box back instead. Initially Hubby was quite receptive to the idea, but gave a straight no, after checking that the shipping cost will set J back by around usd$150. He said with that cost, J will end up only saving S$60, when his purpose of wanting us to lug back the box for him was to save S$300. Hey hello, S$60 not money ar? My stand is if J is a true friend indeed, he will not make us lug a 14kg box that is bigger than a large size check-in luggage, if he knows about the major inconvenience it is causing us. Most importantly, if he has the money to upgrade to a big car that cost more than S$100k, he cant possibly not afford to part with a couple of hundreds to save us from all the hassle and save my bones from breaking right? Most most importantly, to stop the constant squabbles Hubby and I are having. The last straw was when I proposed to take the taxi. Hubby is insistent that it is not going to cause us as much torment as I thought it will be, since he will be the one lugging the huge box. But hey c'mon, if his hand are tied to the box, doesn't it mean i have to lug the 2 luggages?! How the hell am I going to get these up and down the public transport?! How will this heavy twin pram that belongs to his precious friend not cause me any torment?! Perhaps even at the expense of my bones, may i repeat!

During times like these, I wonder why do my Hubby always go all out for his friends at his own expense, and sometimes at mine. If we were to swap roles, I believe J will suggest the pram to be shipped back instead. I just can't fathom why can't he disregard his ego for just once, and come out with a new and better arrangement with J. If J does not even bat an eyelid at splurging on a brand new nice car during a recession, I'm sure he will not mind sending the box back at a mere US$150!